Are you one of those guys that is always confused by women?
Does it seem like the harder you try the more you get confused?
Well have no fear, I have a secret trick that will lead you down the road to understanding women.
Until the past couple years I have always been of those guys that has always had more girl friends than guy friends. Having lots of girl friends like this, I was forced to watch lots of chick flicks/romantic comedies. At the time I just did it because I secretly liked those girls and thought by watching these movies it would help me out with them, (It didn’t) but now I make my girl friends go watch them with me because they are a great learning resource.
Now for the most part I’m talking about romantic comedies here rather than chick flicks, And I know what you are thinking, but they are not the same thing. Chick flicks are movies like the Notebook and Sweet Home Alabama. Romantic comedies are movies like He’s Just Not That Into You
or just about any movie with Matthew McConaughey.
The reason romantic comedies are better than chick flicks is because chick flicks have too much hollywood, happily ever after bull crap to sort through to any useful information. Yea we know that big grand gestures of our love and sending flowers are things that you want. That stuff is child’s play. That stuff just comes naturally when you already love each other and aren’t afraid to show it.
I guess thats a lesson there. If you love her don’t be scared to show her.
But romantic comedies on the other hand are much more like real life. Now don’t get me wrong there is still some hollywood, happily ever after bull crap to dig through but not nearly as much as there are in chick flicks.
So that’s the tricky part. Which parts of these romantic comedies is for real and which parts are the hollywood bull crap?
It’s actually pretty simple. It’s almost all real. The hollywood bull crap that you you have to wade through is the fact that every girl is into you. All those romantic gestures, playing hard to get, and cocky funny routines work. They just aren’t going to work on every girl you meet.
So what you can learn is the interactions of the people in these movies. Learn how be funny and nice at the same time, learn how to care about her feelings without being a total wimp, and learn to talk to women with some confidence. Just don’t ever forget….
NOT EVERY WOMAN WANTS YOU!
As crushing as that may be they can’t all like you. And that’s fine. Be a man and say thank you for your time and move on. Which, consequently, might actually make them more into you, but that’s not why you are doing this. You are walking away because you understand that not everyone loves you. Big deal their loss.
If you really want to learn how relationships work, watch He’s Just Not That Into You
. Every bit of that movie is true. Well except for the last 20 minutes when they had to give it a cheesy hollywood ending.
So what do you think. Do you have a favorite chick flick that can help men understand women better?